Mentors and coaches
Over the past year, world events have caused many challenges and obstacles for most people, whether it is with your overall well-being, health or financial situation. It certainly hasn’t been easy, and that goes for me as well. We have to keep up with changing times and pivot if necessary depending on our personal situation. A change could mean developing new skills and upgrading your knowledge in areas of life that are meaningful to you. A lot of the ‘how to’ is available, and it’s a matter of being resourceful and setting out to look for it. You can find a lot of this free content on youtube or find people who inspire you and follow them on social media. Once you understand what drives you with passion, you want to go deeper and beyond the free ‘surface’ knowledge widely available online.
What is the benefit of having a mentor and then transitioning to a coach? This is the purpose of this post. Have you ever thought about finding a mentor that resonates with you? It could be fitness, health, nutrition, mindset or even a business mentor depending on your need. Mentors are a great start to an informal process based on mutual respect and trust over time. Once that trust is instilled you could consider a more formal and structured coaching relationship.
The primary purpose of having a coach is to get that edge and support to rise above your challenges and sidestep your obstacles. Doing this requires both a shift in mindset (the inner game) and the practical ‘how-to’ with skills and knowledge (the outer game). So let’s drill down a little deeper, and I’ll explain the benefits of having a coach in more detail.
A coach will listen to your needs and where you are currently at with a challenge or pain point. Once there is clarity they help you set ambitious goals that will stretch you a little beyond your current comfort zone and ensure that you are not overwhelmed by them. (See my previous post on Vision). They are your partner as you go through your growth journey and help you see a bigger, better version of yourself.
They will guide you towards the vision and goal you set by working on the knowledge and skills required to get on the right track so that your self-image is aligned with your goal. If you lack the knowledge or skill as you set out to achieve anything in life, you will naturally activate the doubt, fear and anxiety part of your brain, which will cause you to procrastinate.
A coach acts as an accountability partner to help you get unstuck and lift you as you climb towards your destination. Their role is to remind you of your reasons for starting the journey when you are down, discouraged and deflated. These feelings will occur when making changes and getting uncomfortable. This is the price to pay for growth. You can be certain that you will feel resistance and have difficulty taking consistent action. Lack of motivation and excuses will show up along the way that will stop you from taking action.
Our brains are wired to avoid pain and remain within our current comfort zone while conserving energy. You can leverage your partnership with a coach and get that critical support, reminders and encouragement to lift you out of your doubt and keep moving forward with inspired action. When you take consistent action, you will see more results, and when you feel and sense your accomplishment, you elevate your self-confidence.
Your current reality was created based on your past experiences. It was the environment that you grew up in that created many of your beliefs between the ages of 0-12 years. Let’s face it, some of your beliefs and habits in your reality can be limiting and holding you back from making progress. Sometimes it is difficult for you to see this on your own without perspective from someone else. A coach’s role is to help you dream and strive towards more significant results beyond your current reality. To get past this and grow, you need to break the existing barriers and get uncomfortable, and a coach will be there to push you and hold you accountable for your desired growth.
Working with a coach will help you identify and change some of the disempowering habits you may have that hold you back. Habits are repeated automatically and have gotten you to where you are today. When you decide to go further and beyond your current comfort zone, it isn’t easy to break the old patterns if you keep repeating the same habit. You cannot expect a different outcome carrying on this way. A coach will help you break old habits and instill new empowering ones to accelerate your desired growth. It requires persistent determination and 100 days of repetition to lay the foundation for a new habit to begin feeling automatic with less effort and willpower.
Growth, purpose and passion
So I touched on the benefits of having a coach and how your beliefs and habits play a significant role in reaching your desired goals. They can also introduce you to other mentors and coaches that specializes in different areas that may be of interest to you. They can direct you towards the right environment to sustain your growth efforts over the long haul. We all have the exact amount of time available to us each day to spend on activity that drives us towards our purpose in life. The question to ask yourself is, are you trading your time for what you love? As you plan out your days, think about investing some of your time in learning and growing in areas that are of interest to you. Focus on your passions, goals, and decide to cut off all other activities that don’t inspire you.
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18 thoughts on “What is the benefit of having a mentor?”
Hi Michael. Very interesting article. I couldn’t agree more that having a mentor can help in every aspect of our lives. Trainings, courses, books – all of this is great to increase our skills or competences, but nothing is able to fully replace experienced person who is able to give us advises and guide us. In my work I met some great people who become my mentors, and I can’t imagine life without them. I truly believe that learning from other human being is most effective way to change our life.
Thanks for sharing your experiences. Having mentors and coaches truly helps us get into the fast lane towards achievement.
Thank you so much for this amazing piece of information. I have been really focused on my career lately and less time for my health and meditation. Reading your article is an eye-opener for me to get to understand how the human brain functions. It’s the first time for me to come across an article on brainwaves.
You gave me an opportunity to rethink the importance of brainwave training. I will do my best to increase mental clarity and focus. Now I understand that these waives help with the ability to be calm, alert, and express feelings of joy and happiness.
Hey Patrick, Thanks for sharing your comments. All the best to you my friend.
I truly believe in mentors in the workplace.
Speaking from my industry (Construction) it is something that seems to happen naturally within the businesses.
I am currently a mentor and a mentee.
I have never thought about going looking for a coach as I never really thought there was much of a difference. What’s your personal experience with coaching and I assume with everything there are some better than others?
Thanks for your question and for sharing your experience, Craig. To your point they are similar. The distinction between mentoring and formal coaching from my perspective is that a mentor is an experienced and trusted advisor. A good example would be an employer training system where a senior more experienced individual acts as an advisor or guides a junior mentee. Coaching to me is a partnership with a client where you teach based on your past experience, knowledge, and skills in a particular discipline while inspiring them to take action consistently. There are so many coaches out there with varying levels of experience. The key is to determine if their personality and character resonate with you. All the best and live wel!
Yes I agree with this article a coach and a mentor is there to help you in times of need and also teach you a new skill set you have put your mindset to. Like going to the gym you get a coach or personal trainer to train you into getting better at the gym and pull some real gains.
trying to get into investing you would want to get a mentor or a training to show you the basics and what to do there are many great mentors out there to teach you the.
Are there any mentors for day trading?
what about real estate too is there a mentor to get better at it and know what to do instead of real estate school?
Thanks for your comments. For trading I recommend a person by the name of Phil Town. For Real Estate – Grant Cardone. Hope that helps.
This is very interesting. Having a coach is very important. As you have mentioned, we go through changes in life, whether it be business or otherwise. One thing I’d like to though, as mentor, are you able to shift your own mindset aside? Say you have your own beliefs, do you drive one in to believing what you believe in? Say I love payroll and you don’t, for an example.Its intriguing to know. People are very different. Mentors like yourself are basically very inspiring people. Your website is inspiring, a lot.
Thanks for your comment and interesting question! 🙏🏻. When I consult with my clients i refrain from all judgement when listening to their story and challenges. My objectives is to clearly understand their obstacle and what’s holding them back from their desired result. Once I have all the facts and permission to coach I will begin to hold up a mirror (so to speak). to show them their blind spots and offer recommendations, set a plan together and hold them accountable. Success in consulting is to help and serve the client and earn trust rather than imposing personal beliefs. We all see life through a different lens based on our own paradigm.
This is an uplifting article. There is a special role of a mentor in the development of life.
I enjoyed your article and the world want this knowledge to elevate them from wherever they are.
The role of a good mentor counts a lot and making healthy choices in your life.
I have met many people in my more than 6 decades of life who have helped me to grow in the place I currently am.
I have curtailed and pruned off the unnecessary energy, money, and time for things and people who don’t contribute to renewed life.
I read some every day, articles, ted talks, and personal development books which keep me on track. I wish I could have done these earlier in my life and have gained a lot more which is shaping up going forward.
One question always is unsolved in my mind how do I know my true potential and fully develop me to use it all?
Hello Anusuya, Thanks for your comments and question. I’m glad to hear you’ve invested in yourself over the years. It so important to fertilize the garden of our mind to ensure we use it to empower ourselves. As for your question, I think everything in nature is intended to grow constantly. So as we reach a level of awareness/frequency and think we are at our potential there is always another level up and we are constantly evolving if we consciously decide to do so. If not we are regressing. It’s like the saying goes “if we are not growing we are dying”. Persist on your path of growth with constant and never ending improvement. 😊🔆
This article “What is the benefit of having a mentor?” really hit home for me. the thought of having a coach or mentor has been posted in the back of my mind for quite a while; however, I never made any efforts to obtain either. I have no excuses for delaying the inevitable; however, because some complexities, I don’t know where to start.
My personal wellness is at the forefront of my concerns. If you asked me, I am a bundle of issues wrapped in insecurity and covered with a ton of doubt. Nevertheless, it is my goal to seek out help and make the necessary changes. How do you begin to seek out the help needed for this life alter change?
Hello Canty, thanks for the question and sharing a little. It is your paradigm that is likely holding you back from making a decision. My suggestion is to seek out a mentor that has a teaching style and personality that you resonate with. There are so many to choose from and it doesn’t need to be someone locally given today’s virtual world of connection. I conduct the majority of my consulting sessions through zoom like many others. Feel free to reach out directly on Instagram @mindbodyvibrance or Facebook (same) to chat further. Best Wishes
This is a fascinating article. I wholeheartedly believe that a mentor may improve our life in countless ways. Although trainings, courses, and books can help us improve our abilities and knowledge, they cannot take the place of a knowledgeable mentor. Thanks to my job, I’ve been able to connect with some truly inspiring individuals who have become my role models. Personally, I think the best approach to make positive changes in one’s life is to take in the knowledge and experience of others.
Thanks for sharing your comments
I like it when you stressed the advantage of having support to surmount challenges with the aid of mentors. You made me remember the common saying that I stand on the shoulders of giants to see further than my equals. The impact of having a mentor cannot be overemphasized. It will transform your habit and influence your growth.
Thanks for sharing your perspective.